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5 Tips to Loving Your Customers Worksheet

In The BluePrint, Tools and Resources on June 11, 2012 at 11:26 am

Robert C. McKenzie, CEO of Tattoo Technologies and Fit Business Fit People Inc. will be joining us today to discuss 5 tips for loving your customers.  You can download the worksheet below to follow along with the discussion and capture your insights!

 

 

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Stop Playing with your Ex-Box!!

In The BluePrint on March 6, 2012 at 4:23 pm

I ran across an interesting visual for a new sitcom and had to chuckle. I immediately had visions of my 25 (okay maybe 30) year-old self sorting through a box of sentimental letters, cards and gifts that had been given to me by an “ex”. I recall tears streaming down my face as I held the dried flower to my nose, half-expecting there to be some hint of fragrance after almost a year.  “CUT, kill the music”…and scene.

The phrase caught my attention because it’s one example of the many ways we saboutage our present and future by refusing to let go of the past. Now don’t get me wrong, I don’t believe people and relationships should be discarded like old shoes. I’m still great friends with all, okay most,  of my exes and love them dearly.  But we’ve all moved on towards our dreams.  It’s not healthy to sit around fantasizing about what was or could have been. There must be some pretty obvious reasons why the relationship didn’t last, right?  And if they still mean that much to you, go get ’em!!! You never know. People change and maybe it can work this time.  I often share with people that my mom and dad married young, stayed together only five years, were divorced for about 20 years and remarried about 15 years ago and they couldn’t be happier. So stranger things have happened:-)   But if thats not the route you are led to take, then it’s time to toss your “ex-box”!  Get rid of the cards, emails, texts, naked pictures, dried flowers, pictures of you two on the beach, the toothpick that was in her pineapple on the frozen drink from your first date, the bag of hair from the first time you cut his hair…LOL…let it go!

Fond memories will always live on in your heart and that’s okay but don’t jeopardize your future by continually looking back. And the harsh reality was that my “ex” wasn’t at home crying, listening to Luther,  looking through an old box filled with things that reminded him of me. Time to stop playing with the “ex-box” boys and girls. We have grown up dreams to live!!

Trellis

Your Kids Are Part of The BluePrint

In Tools and Resources on February 22, 2012 at 2:39 pm

Kids…whew!  I wish they came with parenting manuals.  The truth is most of us have children before we are emotionally ready and equipped to handle their needs.  This isn’t a showstopper because it’s been this way since the beginning of time.  As you think about living the life of your dreams, if you’re a parent, that definitely includes your children.  How much time do you spend learning how to be a more effective parent?  How much time do you invest in what is arguably your most valuable asset on the planet?  How do you ensure that you are instilling the proper values in them when the culture can sometimes be anything but proper?

Trust me, having raised one child and working on raising the second one, you WILL make mistakes.  Despite your best intentions, kids will be kids and they’re going to make childish mistakes.  They don’t yet have the ability in those precious little brains, cognitively or biologically, to understand all of the reasons why they can’t listen to certain music, go to R-rated movies, eat chicken nuggets every day, have a beer and cigarette or stay out all night with their friends.  It’s part of our job as parents to set boundaries and limitations to keep them out of harms way.  In addition to setting boundaries, we should also explain our reasons to them so that they learn to think critically and make good decisions when they’re up the street at their friends’ house.

The BluePrint–Design Your Dream Life will make sure you have access to resources and tools that can help you to be a better parent.  We have to prioritize our children.  We spend countless hours on our careers and our education or other life goals.  Ask yourself are you spending enough time improving your parenting skills? Are you reading books and magazines about parenting the same way you are fitness and finances?

Here’s the link to a site to get your started.  http://www.consistent-parenting-advice.com/effective-parenting-skills.html

If you know of other great sites with good parenting advice, post the link in the comments.

Living the Dream,

Trellis

Romance is easy…love requires some effort

In The BluePrint on February 8, 2012 at 1:27 pm
Dinner

Dinner (Photo credit: Paul Watson)

During this season, we are all thinking about and surrounded by the trappings of Valentine’s Day.  The cards, flowers, candy, stuffed animals and all those damn love songs on the radio! It struck me as I talked to my daughter about this topic that romance is the easy part of relationships but romantic love on the other hand takes real effort.  Some would take issue with that statement because they are dealing with what I think is an immature version of love which is really infatuation with a bit of lust thrown in for good measure.  I’ve learned that love is not for whimps!  Love is going to challenge and stretch and grow you like nothing else.  Our fantasy version of love tells us that love is without conflict, always peacable, everyone is always walking around with a silly grin on their faces and can’t wait to get home to jump in bed and make mad, wild, chandelier-swinging love for hours. I hear all of the 30+ group laughing going “yeah right…hours!” LOL

I’m not a romantic pessimist.  I’m more of a realist but am a true-blue romantic at heart.  I know that the romantic love that we all dreamed about when we were younger DOES exist but what they don’t tell you in the fairytale is that you have to work at it.  You have to be willing to talk and listen, give and take, be right and be wrong, say I’m sorry, forgive and change.  None of us like change.  Not only is it hard emotionally but there’s biology and brain science working against us.  You have to have courage to allow yourself to be vulnerable with someone and trust them. A good friend of mine always says that “love provides a safe space to learn and  practice courage.”  Love also requires the willingness to look at yourself as reflected back to you by your partner and marvel at the good and not so good things about yourself.  The first thing we want to do if we don’t like what we see or what our partner is telling us is to throw away the mirror.  But I’ve come to realize that I can’t run away from me.  No matter where I go, there I am.

But we continue to pursue romantic love with everything in us.  Why?  Because we are made for connection.  We desire to be loved and accepted by another human being in an intimate way.  We want to both “know” and “be known” deeply by someone.

So in honor of Valentine’s Day, I’ve created a brief poll that will only take you a few seconds.  How would you rate your romantic relationship?