In Motivation on April 22, 2012 at 4:28 pm
Fear. Perhaps the most debilitating word in any language. Such a small word for such a strong emotion and an even stronger ability to paralyze us in our tracks. Even though we’re adults now and we know that the boogey man doesn’t exist and that things are rarely as bad as we imagine them to be, fear still grips us and causes us to doubt the knowing voice that’s on the inside of us. The voice that has seldom been wrong or off-track. The voice that has been as constant as breathing and sometimes as life-sustaining.
I’ve learned that fear thrives in the dark. In those secluded places that we dare allow anyone to venture. Those dark corners in the attics and basements of our lives. We’ve been too afraid to pull the cover off of it because we’ve come to believe that there really might be something there that can hurt us. Well, it can’t. We’ve made up stories in our minds and given the fear more power than it deserves or even warrants. It’s only when light hits it that we realize that what looked like an old dead corpse was actually a wire hanger tangled in an upside down mop leaning against the wall. Fear is banking on you staying afraid instead of facing it head on.
Your source of light be a conversation with a friend or relative. It might be God. It might be an inspirational poem or blog post. It might even be that genius voice inside of you whispering “turn on the light”. Whatever the light is for you and whatever gives you courage, turn it on. Go on. Turn on the light.
In Motivation, Personal Insight on April 22, 2012 at 11:41 am
As I tried to write an encouraging email to a sister-friend this morning, I was reminded that lifes’ challenges can be a tremendous gift to us depending on how we see them and how we react to them. Past hurts can remain buried underground in our psyche for years and then all of a sudden, there they are. And it’s usually at the most inopportune time. They remind us that we still have work to do but the mind is a powerful thing. It keeps those things suppressed that at the time we might not be ready or able to deal with. It’s the universe’s great little coping mechanism for dealing with trauma.
So if you know or believe that to be true, then what is the universe telling you when they begin to resurface? I believe it’s God‘s way of saying “You’re strong enough to handle this now. You are smart enough and capable enough to handle this now.” It doesn’t usually feel like it at that very moment, but I believe it’s true. If there are situations that you’ve been putting off or neglecting because you felt they were too hard or painful and they’re coming up now, that’s because it’s time to address them… NOW. No matter how difficult or painful the are, look at them and resolve that you are going to handle them this time. You’re not going to put it back in the box and put it back on the shelf. You are going to unpack it and deal with it once and for all. You might need help and support. You might need tools and strategies. You will certainly need someone to help hold you accountable, BUT YOU CAN DO IT! Those fears and limiting beliefs have been holding you back long enough.
Your dream life is waiting! Smooches~
In Motivation on January 26, 2012 at 5:19 pm
There are some days that just feel slightly heavier than others. This is part of the journey. Every day won’t appear sunny but just know that the sun is up there, still shining, still providing some warmth to the earth. When your eyes and emotions and even your faith all seem to fail you, stick with what you KNOW. The sun will rise in the morning just as it has since the beginning of time. Keep moving in the direction of your dreams, purpose and desires.
Don’t give up. Keep moving!!!
In Motivation, The BluePrint on January 25, 2012 at 1:38 pm
I was talking to a friend and colleague a while back about life in general and how both life and circumstance seem to be conspiring to keep us all locked in our “boxes”. We talked about our hesitation and in some cases downright unwillingness to question the ideas and beliefs that we’ve held on to for much if not most of our lives. But how do you REALLY “know” a thing if you’ve never, on some level, asked the question??? A favorite quote of mine (and I can’t recall where I first heard it–either inside our out of my head) is that “untested faith (in anyone or anything) is unreliable”. In other words, I can say I have faith in my desk chairs’ ability to hold me but until I plop my butt down in it, I’m not acting on my faith. I’m not “testing” the chairs’ ability to deliver the goods. I’m looking at it and it’s looking back at me as it were…but neither ever really KNOWS, right?
The “box” represents everything we know, believe, have experienced, have been told or taught. Those beliefs, experiences, stories and lessons have shaped who we are. They provide the “backstory” to our lives. Interestingly, the box both informs and reinforces every decision we make or don’t make and every action we take or don’t take and even our secret thoughts. So in essence, if you never think or venture outside of the box it will do what it’s designed to do which is keep you “in” and keep everything else “out”. That’s what boxes are for. Some people’s arrogance would have them believe that they aren’t boxed in but if you look closer, they really just have a bigger box. At first glance they may seem to be freer…more money, more prestige, more self-actualized, more educated…but those things can also be boxes.
I don’t typically do well in boxes long-term even when they’re of my own making. I’m an emotional, spiritual, anaytical claustrophobic! I don’t like being in tight, closed spaces. I don’t like having limits placed on me nor should I place them on myself and others. I have no idea what another person is capable of and so shouldn’t project my own insecurities and limitations on them. We’re all capable if greatness.
So whatever your box is, it’s worth it to venture outside. Do something different. Face your fears head-on. No one ever became a better version by taking the safe route. At the end of 2011, we relected on the greatness of now deceased Apple CEO Steve Jobs and celebrated him for deciding that he was not going to waste his life living someone else’s. We should all be so brave.
In Motivation, The BluePrint on January 25, 2012 at 1:32 pm
There are certain junctures in life where we’re all called upon to really walk out what we say we believe. It usually comes at the most inconvenient time. A time where we are not feeling particularly courageous or equipped. I can’t recall who said it but there’s a quote that says “if it was easy everybody would do it”. Well, it’s not easy and nobody’s going to do it for you!
Whatever the hurdle or decision is that you’ve been avoiding because it seems too hard, just know that you can do it. You HAVE to do it. You’re the only one who CAN do it which means you have all that you need. There are huge risks involved in living our values, dreams and making the tough decisions but there are also great rewards. So…get to it!!