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Keep Moving

In Motivation on January 26, 2012 at 5:19 pm

There are some days that just feel slightly heavier than others. This is part of the journey. Every day won’t appear sunny but just know that the sun is up there, still shining, still providing some warmth to the earth. When your eyes and emotions and even your faith all seem to fail you, stick with what you KNOW. The sun will rise in the morning just as it has since the beginning of time.  Keep moving in the direction of your dreams, purpose and desires.

Don’t give up. Keep moving!!!

Trellis

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Time to come out of the box

In Motivation, The BluePrint on January 25, 2012 at 1:38 pm

I was talking to a friend and colleague a while back about life in general and how both life and circumstance seem to be conspiring to keep us all locked in our “boxes”.  We talked about our hesitation and in some cases downright unwillingness to question the ideas and beliefs that we’ve held on to for much if not most of our lives.  But how do you REALLY “know” a thing if you’ve never, on some level, asked the question???  A favorite quote of mine (and I can’t recall where I first heard it–either inside our out of my head) is that “untested faith (in anyone or anything) is unreliable”.  In other words, I can say I have faith in my desk chairs’ ability to hold me but until I plop my butt down in it, I’m not acting on my faith.  I’m not “testing” the chairs’ ability to deliver the goods.  I’m looking at it and it’s looking back at me as it were…but neither ever really KNOWS, right?

The “box” represents everything we know, believe, have experienced, have been told or taught.  Those beliefs, experiences, stories and lessons have shaped who we are.   They provide the “backstory” to our lives.  Interestingly, the box both informs and reinforces every decision we make or don’t make and every action we take or don’t take and even our secret thoughts.  So in essence, if you never think or venture outside of the box it will do what it’s designed to do which is keep you “in” and keep everything else “out”. That’s what boxes are for.  Some people’s arrogance would have them believe that they aren’t boxed in but if you look closer, they really just have a bigger box. At first glance they may seem to be freer…more money, more prestige, more self-actualized, more educated…but those things can also be boxes.

I don’t typically do well in boxes long-term even when they’re of my own making. I’m an emotional, spiritual, anaytical claustrophobic! I don’t like being in tight, closed spaces. I don’t like having limits placed on me nor should I place them on myself and others. I have no idea what another person is capable of and so shouldn’t project my own insecurities and limitations on them. We’re all capable if greatness.

So whatever your box is, it’s worth it to venture outside. Do something different. Face your fears head-on. No one ever became a better version by taking the safe route. At the end of 2011, we relected on the greatness of now deceased Apple CEO Steve Jobs and celebrated him for deciding that he was not going to waste his life living someone else’s. We should all be so brave.

Nobody’s going to do it for you

In Motivation, The BluePrint on January 25, 2012 at 1:32 pm

There are certain junctures in life where we’re all called upon to really walk out what we say we believe. It usually comes at the most inconvenient time. A time where we are not feeling particularly courageous or equipped. I can’t recall who said it but there’s a quote that says “if it was easy everybody would do it”. Well, it’s not easy and nobody’s going to do it for you!

Whatever the hurdle or decision is that you’ve been avoiding because it seems too hard, just know that you can do it. You HAVE to do it. You’re the only one who CAN do it which means you have all that you need. There are huge risks involved in living our values, dreams and making the tough decisions but there are also great rewards. So…get to it!!

Every House Needs A Foundation

In The BluePrint on January 25, 2012 at 11:33 am

I’ve been doing lots of reading, reflecting and writing.  One theme that keeps coming up for me as I contemplate my own dream life, is authenticity.  It strikes me that throughout our lives we do a lot of things based on scripts that have been imprinted on us since childhood. The types of partners we are attracted to, what we believe about ourselves and others, our political affiliations, what God we believe in or don’t, the value of money and hardwork…all of these ideas, concepts, values and believes can be traced back to a time in our lives when we were very unconscious of them and what they would eventually come to mean to us. 

Trust me, I’m all for traditions, rituals and family values.  They only pose a problem when they aren’t authentically our own.  When we have examined them against our own journey and destiny to determine their current usefulness.  As I, and  you, look to design and build the life of our dreams, one of the first steps should be to make sure we are clear about defining the Foundation.  The Foundation of your dream life represents the aspect that everything else will rest upon.  It is the part of the house that is least likely to shift and change.  It represents your area of stability. I’ve been careful in The BluePrint…Design Your Dream Life not to define that for you.  It can be Spirituality, Finances, Education, Family, Relationships, Career, Health/Fitness….it might be different for each of us but what it must be is authentic.  It must be yours.  It can’t be grandmas’ or mommas’ or daddys’ or husbands’ or anyone else’s otherwise it won’t adequately support YOUR life. So, as we go into 2012 and ponder the design for our dream lives, let us first get clear on The Foundation.  Make sure that you are building and living YOUR life not someone elses. 

Living the Dream,
Trellis